To the girl who is marrying my best friend
Dear 'X',
Congratulations. You just landed yourself the most amazing guy on this planet. I might probably be biased because he is my best friend but that doesn't make it any less true. While I am really excited for the both of you, there is a small part of me that fears that everything will change. And I hate changes.
You see, for the longest time, it seemed like it was just me and him against the world. I am sure that our world included the others but we just never saw it. We had our own little world, with our own little jokes, our own secrets and it was ours. No one else mattered. I am not the easiest person to be friends with. And because of that, a lot of people came into my life and left. But he stayed. And I always knew that no matter what else was wrong in my life, my guy best friend was right there. I never had to worry about him.
We are so close that a lot of people assumed we were dating. And we would laugh. It didn't matter to us what people thought because we both believed that a relationship doesn't really need a label just as long as it is a close one. We were, are and always will be family. That's a promise we made a long time ago.
You see, whenever we hung out, anytime something funny happened, we would look at each other because we had a million inside jokes. Anytime I was uncomfortable, I tried to look for him because he was someone I trusted with all I have. Whenever I wanted to cry or vent, he offered me his shoulder and wiped my tears. When my dream came true, he was right there beside me cheering me on. And anytime I looked for him, he was there. Even if it was in the distance. And that's how it has always been. We have always been there for each other, even from afar.
A lot of people entered and left his life and I never had to worry about them because I knew that we would always have our own little world and no one would ever be a part of it like we were. But you are here now. You probably have your own little world with him. But you will also now be a part of our world because you are soon going to be his better half. And I understand that. I also hope that you understand that he was my best friend much before he met you. He is partly who he is because of me and I am partly who I am because of him. I will still need my best friend sometimes and I hope that you understand then even if it seems like we are shutting you out, we are not. We just aren't used to anyone being a part of our world.
We annoy each other, we scream at each other like kids and there are days we want to kill each other. I hope you keep your patience with us then even when we embarrass you when we fight. But we also offer each other advice, guide each other and are the first call (at least for me) when something good happens. And I hope you understand why.
He is my best friend, my family, my person. I am not in love with him but I love him and that to me is more important than being in love with him. His friendship means the world to me, just as you mean the world to him now. When you get married, I will, in a sense, be giving 'my person' to you. And even though I can never entirely give him away, I will try to let go and share him a little. Please be patient with me.
And now, I will end this letter by welcoming you to our family, our world. I do not know whether he will be a good husband or even a half-way decent one. But if he is anywhere close to being as good a husband as he is a friend, than you've hit the jackpot. If nothing else, I can guarantee you this. You will never meet someone as supportive as him.
Your's sincerely,
His girl best friend
Congratulations. You just landed yourself the most amazing guy on this planet. I might probably be biased because he is my best friend but that doesn't make it any less true. While I am really excited for the both of you, there is a small part of me that fears that everything will change. And I hate changes.
You see, for the longest time, it seemed like it was just me and him against the world. I am sure that our world included the others but we just never saw it. We had our own little world, with our own little jokes, our own secrets and it was ours. No one else mattered. I am not the easiest person to be friends with. And because of that, a lot of people came into my life and left. But he stayed. And I always knew that no matter what else was wrong in my life, my guy best friend was right there. I never had to worry about him.
We are so close that a lot of people assumed we were dating. And we would laugh. It didn't matter to us what people thought because we both believed that a relationship doesn't really need a label just as long as it is a close one. We were, are and always will be family. That's a promise we made a long time ago.
You see, whenever we hung out, anytime something funny happened, we would look at each other because we had a million inside jokes. Anytime I was uncomfortable, I tried to look for him because he was someone I trusted with all I have. Whenever I wanted to cry or vent, he offered me his shoulder and wiped my tears. When my dream came true, he was right there beside me cheering me on. And anytime I looked for him, he was there. Even if it was in the distance. And that's how it has always been. We have always been there for each other, even from afar.
A lot of people entered and left his life and I never had to worry about them because I knew that we would always have our own little world and no one would ever be a part of it like we were. But you are here now. You probably have your own little world with him. But you will also now be a part of our world because you are soon going to be his better half. And I understand that. I also hope that you understand that he was my best friend much before he met you. He is partly who he is because of me and I am partly who I am because of him. I will still need my best friend sometimes and I hope that you understand then even if it seems like we are shutting you out, we are not. We just aren't used to anyone being a part of our world.
We annoy each other, we scream at each other like kids and there are days we want to kill each other. I hope you keep your patience with us then even when we embarrass you when we fight. But we also offer each other advice, guide each other and are the first call (at least for me) when something good happens. And I hope you understand why.
He is my best friend, my family, my person. I am not in love with him but I love him and that to me is more important than being in love with him. His friendship means the world to me, just as you mean the world to him now. When you get married, I will, in a sense, be giving 'my person' to you. And even though I can never entirely give him away, I will try to let go and share him a little. Please be patient with me.
And now, I will end this letter by welcoming you to our family, our world. I do not know whether he will be a good husband or even a half-way decent one. But if he is anywhere close to being as good a husband as he is a friend, than you've hit the jackpot. If nothing else, I can guarantee you this. You will never meet someone as supportive as him.
Your's sincerely,
His girl best friend
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